It almost seems like most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. In my opinion, the ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. While some women say they want a nice guy, they usually end up dating bad boys. Here a few reasons (some legitimate and some just stereotypes that won’t die) why girls like bad boys and dismiss the nice guys:

1. Nice guys’ personalities don’t seem genuine.

Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real, and women instinctively don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real.” Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

2. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. 

No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. They’re SO predictable — which is just boring! 

Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.

4. Loving a bad boy is in our genes.

Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

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